5 Musings on a Quality Marriage

What makes a good marriage? Some of you are already married, while others are looking forward to marriage or hoping for one down the line. Regardless of your current position, as we inch closer to Valentine’s Day, we all can ruminate on what a quality marriage should be.

Marriage is regarded in the Bible as a parallel for the relationship between Christ and the church. So for Christians, that’s the first place we can look, and it’s the best goal for any marriage relationship–to reflect the love of Christ.

Let’s take a closer look at some of the most important qualities of the best marriages.

It’s a partnership.
“For we are God’s fellow workers. You are God’s field, God’s building.”
-1 Corinthians 3:9

In every way, a strong marriage is a partnership between both spouses, and God.

It benefits both spouses.
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?”
-Ecclesiastes 4:9

A good marriage is not one-sided and only focused on the needs of one party–it’s intended to enrich the lives of both the husband and wife.

It brings both people closer to God.
“And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them.”
-1 John 4:16

When a married couple grows closer to God, they grow closer to each other, and they gain the strength to weather the storms of life.

It’s edifying to both spouses.
“Therefore let us pursue the things which make for peace and the things by which one may edify another.”
-Romans 14:19

A quality marriage is one where the relationship ultimately brings out the best in the other.

Love is the ultimate goal.
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”
-1 Peter 4:8

Every marriage on earth is between two imperfect people, but when they love each other as deeply as Christ has loved us all, they experience forgiveness on a new and deep level.

This February, we hope you will reflect upon the various qualities of a good marriage. If you’d like to learn more about healthy relationships with God and others, please visit our website